The Offended Virgin

I went to Wal-Mart yesterday and saw that girl dressed up like she was going clubbing. As she walked in, the greater looked her up and she got all offended. She gave him a dirty look and barked a not-so-polite “What?” at him. The poor man looked down almost ashamed and I felt for the man because to me he didn’t do anything wrong. If you dress up that provocative, you should expect to attract attention.

It reminded me of a story a few years back. I was at work smoking a cigarette with some friends, when this girl, from work as well, joined us. She was wearing this skirt that actually look more like a big belt, a tiny tank top that you wonder if they went out of fabric while doing it and some “fuck me boots”. So one of the guys with me asked her, “Where are you going out tonight?” She looked all surprised and said, “No where why?” Because you look like a clubbing whore, but I kept that thought to myself. So the same guy, explained himself saying that she was a bit over dress up for work. (I actually thought she was underdressed, but I guess that’s a question of point of view.) She switched off completely, going on and on about the fact that she was allowed to be sexy even at work and that her look today was nothing special. So the boys’ talk began. “Oh come on girl, you are indeed sexy but also really provocative, you look ready for a hot night.” “Yeah when my girlfriend dresses like this I know I will have some fun that night.” She started to loose it; screaming she was a bright girl and not only a body, that men were all the same, only thinking about sex. I had kept my mouth shut until then but I couldn't help myself anymore.

“What did you expect? You have to assume yourself girl. You wear a skirt that show half of your ass and don't want guys to look at it? Your breast is winking at them beneath what you call a tank top and you don't expect guys to answer the invitation? Your entire look say, “Fuck me right here,” and you get offended that guys think about actually doing it. I got some news for you, good girl don't dress like bitches and vice versa. So if you want to be the good bright girl like you said, wear a turtleneck!!! Other wise assume yourself and stop playing the offended virgin.” She called us a bunch of jerks and losers and left.

Okay, I admit it; we went a bit hard on her, but God someone had to tell her. Wake up and face who you are. I find it annoying. It’s like who are you kidding here. The whole point of showing off is that people look at you. So if you show your ass well we are going look at it. Now if you can't handle it, dress differently. End of story.

It's like last year I saw an interview with Britney Spears and she was going on and on about the fact that men look at her like a piece of meat. Okay girl, you made a video nearly naked with 10 guys, moaning and rubbing your ass on their crotch singing “I'm a slave for you,” and you tell me you didn't see it coming!

I just hate it. If you want to be bitch or provocative, be it, but assumed it. And beside there's a difference between sexy and slut. It's a question of arrangement. Wear your fuck-me-boots but with a longer skirt. You can wear you tiny tank top but with a nice pair of jeans. You can even wear that belt skirt of yours but with a t-shirt maybe and not at work! But if you are one of those who plead the free expression and scream high and loud that you're allowed to wear whatever you want, fine, it's true. But remember, we are also allowed to think that you're a bitch!

Does Einstein should have been ashamed to be a genius?

A couple of weeks back I was in line at the grocery’s store. There was a young couple in front of me. The girl was flipping through the page of People magazine when she came across an article about Angelina Jolie. The guy said Angelina was hot. The girl’s answer shocked me and, I must admit, upset me.

"Yes but she got no credit because she was born like this. It’s easy to have a life when you are so beautiful. She would be absolutely no one without her ass. I hate those people because they are not even a bit ashamed of what they have. They take everything and don't think about people that don't have their chance." 


I had to fight really hard no to jump into the conversation and tell her what an idiot I thought she was. Seriously, am I the only one who sees the wrong in her remark? Why should Angelina feel ashamed of anything? She's beautiful and proud what's wrong with that? We are already ashamed of our faults and now we should be ashamed of our qualities. Being beautiful is just an extra to all she does. Why should we remove her credit because she was born beautiful?

I don’t get it. Does that mean that Einstein doesn't deserve any credit because he was born a genius? Does that mean that Picasso and Beethoven should have been ashamed of being gifted?

Come on, give the girl a break. We all work with what we have. Some are born beautiful, some with intelligence, some with talent, some with a bit of all and some with the full package deal. I wouldn't apply for engineering’s job because I know I don't have the competencies to do it. You just have to accept yourself and your limits, and if your limits annoy you well it’s up to you to change them.

The goal in life is to bring yourself to a higher level not to bring down everyone to your level so that you feel better. I'm not going to wear jogging-pants just in case that I might offend the girl that doesn't have nice legs if I wear a nice skirt. If you want my legs: workout for it. Should I start to look like crap just in case I meet a girl that does so that she doesn't feel bad about herself? I'm not going be ashamed to be beautiful, just like I'm not going be ashamed to excel at my work while some don't. Let me give you a dose of painful truth, hating all the girls with a nice ass won’t make yours smaller!

I don’t mean any disrespect to anyone. I don’t believe you have to be Angelina Jolie or a size 1 to be beautiful, quite the opposite but I do believe that if your are a size 14 and you are unhappy about it, the solution is not to hate the size-1-girl but to workout. Same rule applies if you don’t excel, as you would like at work; work harder but don’t hate me for getting a promotion or a better job than you.

In what kind of world we’ll live in if we have to be ashamed of our qualities and assets? I’ll tell you, a pretty sad one.

If there was no tomorrow...

Sometime I wonder, if there was no tomorrow would I act differently? The truth? Definitely! Why? Because there would be no consequences. Because tomorrow is just the consequences of today right? Consequences are what hold us back because we fear them and we are not ready to deal with them. So we hold back today to make sure that tomorrow won’t hurt.


So if there was no tomorrow, would I leave my 9 to 5 work to strike for my dreams? Hell yes! Why? Because money wouldn't matter anymore. I wouldn't have a mortgage to worry about and bills to pay anymore.

If there was no tomorrow, would I learn forgiveness? I guess. Why? Because I wouldn't be able postponed to later. I wouldn't think that I still have time. There wouldn't be better time than now.

If there was no tomorrow, would I take out my savings and travel around the world. Damn straight I would! Why? Because there wouldn’t be any use for saving so I might enjoys life and every penny I have.

Think about it. If there was no tomorrow, would you tell that guy/girl you've been fancying him/her for months? Of course you would! Why? Because if the last thing you could hear on this planet was him/her telling you he/she likes you too, how fantastic that would be? But more important, if he/she don't fancy you at all, there would be no consequences. You wouldn't have to face him/her tomorrow. You wouldn't feel like crap and rejected. It would be just one done deal, something out of your system.

If there was no tomorrow risks would become chances because there wouldn’t be consequences. So without consequences there is no risk, just the chance to makes things better.

A friend once told me that I should live every minute imagining death was behind a door waiting for me. He asked me if I would leave peacefully if death was to take me right now, if I would have regrets.  I realized I would have a bunch of regrets because I was holding back so much. He said it was better to live with remorse than regrets.

I must say, what he told stuck into my mind and never left me after that day. I am not saying to go crazy and irresponsible. Of course, you need some savings but maybe you need some treats from time to time. All the saving in the world wont do you any good if you are not there to enjoy it. Keep your 9 to 5 jobs but make sure you allow yourselves some time to live your dreams and your passions. They might not pay your rent or mortgage but there will surely, in the long run, make a big difference in your quality of life and happiness.

I think what I am saying to you is don’t be so afraid to think outside of the box or treat yourselves. Strike for your dreams and what makes you happy because even if it doesn’t turn out as you would have wished, at least you will know. You wont spend your old days wondering what life would have been if you I told that girl/guy you love her/him. You wont wonder what would have happen if you would have written that book you always dreamed about or start that small business you wanted. Find a balance between the security you need to maintain your daily life and the risk you can take to make your dreams come true.